I was not supposed to write something about this. Actually, I had planned to write something different. But my spirit told me to share my perspective after some painful situations. Who knows I may inspire someone.
Three weeks ago, I was talking with a good friend of mine. During our conversation, we emphasized on the fact that we were grateful for everything that happened the last years. And my friend basically told me that he was thankful for the pain, the rejections he may have felt. I asked him what he meant by being grateful for the pain. Well, my friend explained to me that feeling some pain was a way for him to really get to know himself. The reactions that he sometimes got after a break-up, rejection or disappointment were only there to show his true colors. Those bad situations were there to show him what he needed to change in his life for himself.
The funny thing is that a day after I finished writing this blogpost, I went on my Instagram account. For the very first time I wanted to use Instalive in order to see how It works. Without even noticing I clicked on Lerato Kganyago’s (South African TV-Host/DJ) profile who was going live at that particular moment. Well I started watching and listening to what this beautiful woman was saying. She said the thing she liked the most in her life was feeling the pain because for her It meant making progress. Can you believe It? That was a strong perspective of what I was writing about.
After all, I think the power or even the core of this message was the focus on what we keep our eyes on. What do we do when problems occur? Do we keep our eyes on the problem or do we focus on the positive things that come out of the trouble?
Most of people are so focused in what the other did to them that they start asking, "Why God? Why did this happen to me? Why?" And what If that bad situation was only to put some dirty stuff out of your life so you could become a better person. Maybe the trouble was the only way for you to become stronger, wiser, smarter. What If that bad relationship is the only way for you to show what kind of friends you have? Those are different elements that we have to take into consideration. To be honest with you, it is only this year that I understood that feeling some pain is a preparation for the next step in your life. Guess what, if you can handle this one, you surely can handle the next one.
Remember nobody is perfect. So, we have a lot of work to do with ourselves. And the thing is that we do not have the control after someone's behavior. However, we have the possibility to control ourselves. Isn't that a reason enough to learn something after the bad breaks, the bad relationships, the struggles? And keep in mind, God can turn a very bad situation that was meant to hurt you into a blessing, into something that could change your life forever.
Kiss from a woman with no Limits XoXo
Did you ever ask yourself how many times you wanted to control something that you couldn't? The truth is we all want to control things. Nobody likes the fact of not knowing where they are going. But this is how your faith is being tested. It is easy to like the beginning and the end of a project but it is complicated to stay calm, in joy, patient when in the middle.
The good news is that we can let go of how we think something should happen and just surrender. Only God knows why, how and when everything will fall into place.
We need to understand that sometimes we just cannot control certain situations. And controlling them will cause us to be unhappy and force things that we should not force.
A couple of days ago, I was watching Chelsea Handler during an interview she had. She was asked what she would write if she had to write to her younger self. At the very end of the video something took my attention. She said: “The best thing you could do is to enjoy the struggle of the unknown because you will have the life you have always dreamed of”. After her message, I was happy to know that it is okay not to know everything. It is very normal if you feel like you haven’t figured out everything in your life because there is always something waiting for you beyond the life you have imagined. When you do things that look crazy, big or exceptional to you. By that I mean things that you cannot do on your own. That's when you know that God's grace, favor has stepped in your life and that He has been leading you all the way long.
The last two years have been crazy for me. I have done things that I couldn’t do by myself. The right people coming into my life, discovering talent I did not know I had. But I know that all of that came from God. Having the certitude that he only wants the best for me showed me how to wait on HIM and not to rush things. Suddenly things that were so important to me became less important or less dramatic. What I am trying to tell you is that when you reach your limits you will learn how to trust and depend on God. Why spending your time convincing people to like you, to believe in you or to support you? Nope, this is not your battle. So why just not stay peaceful knowing that we serve a Father who won't let us down.
Kiss from a woman with no Limits XoXo