I was not supposed to write something about this. Actually, I had planned to write something different. But my spirit told me to share my perspective after some painful situations. Who knows I may inspire someone.
Three weeks ago, I was talking with a good friend of mine. During our conversation, we emphasized on the fact that we were grateful for everything that happened the last years. And my friend basically told me that he was thankful for the pain, the rejections he may have felt. I asked him what he meant by being grateful for the pain. Well, my friend explained to me that feeling some pain was a way for him to really get to know himself. The reactions that he sometimes got after a break-up, rejection or disappointment were only there to show his true colors. Those bad situations were there to show him what he needed to change in his life for himself.
The funny thing is that a day after I finished writing this blogpost, I went on my Instagram account. For the very first time I wanted to use Instalive in order to see how It works. Without even noticing I clicked on Lerato Kganyago’s (South African TV-Host/DJ) profile who was going live at that particular moment. Well I started watching and listening to what this beautiful woman was saying. She said the thing she liked the most in her life was feeling the pain because for her It meant making progress. Can you believe It? That was a strong perspective of what I was writing about.
After all, I think the power or even the core of this message was the focus on what we keep our eyes on. What do we do when problems occur? Do we keep our eyes on the problem or do we focus on the positive things that come out of the trouble?
Most of people are so focused in what the other did to them that they start asking, "Why God? Why did this happen to me? Why?" And what If that bad situation was only to put some dirty stuff out of your life so you could become a better person. Maybe the trouble was the only way for you to become stronger, wiser, smarter. What If that bad relationship is the only way for you to show what kind of friends you have? Those are different elements that we have to take into consideration. To be honest with you, it is only this year that I understood that feeling some pain is a preparation for the next step in your life. Guess what, if you can handle this one, you surely can handle the next one.
Remember nobody is perfect. So, we have a lot of work to do with ourselves. And the thing is that we do not have the control after someone's behavior. However, we have the possibility to control ourselves. Isn't that a reason enough to learn something after the bad breaks, the bad relationships, the struggles? And keep in mind, God can turn a very bad situation that was meant to hurt you into a blessing, into something that could change your life forever.
Kiss from a woman with no Limits XoXo